tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1781057298838391911.post5595159187663318707..comments2016-10-26T22:13:53.192+01:00Comments on Avoiding the Mop: OverwhelmedMrsChainshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00605382943935039720noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1781057298838391911.post-4110902249140017022012-11-17T15:13:52.027+00:002012-11-17T15:13:52.027+00:00I too agree with the comment above me music can he...I too agree with the comment above me music can heal what medication and advices cannot . And yes raps can be the best friend . But your son and you of course have earned a great deal of respect from me woman . I salute your son for the endurance he has and the courage he has shown.<br /><br />##RESPECT##Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03168106184297387990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1781057298838391911.post-77377305105491985602012-11-16T21:45:22.693+00:002012-11-16T21:45:22.693+00:00It's not irritating at all. So many kids have ...It's not irritating at all. So many kids have been bullied. He has definitely found a way to lose himself in his music. Thank you for the advice. MrsChainshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00605382943935039720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1781057298838391911.post-59887256344549922182012-11-16T21:43:50.337+00:002012-11-16T21:43:50.337+00:00I'm a kid myself who has been bullied a lot in...I'm a kid myself who has been bullied a lot in my school days, and I'm not trolling but get your son to listen to Music, preferably rapper who rap about guys being bullied like Eminem, if you find this irritating just ignore it, but this saved me so I thought this might help another guy like me. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1781057298838391911.post-43923648982354873262012-10-11T00:57:14.680+01:002012-10-11T00:57:14.680+01:00Totally what Wendy said! I am soo sorry that you a...Totally what Wendy said! I am soo sorry that you and your family are going through all of this! I'm not very good with words, but just know that my thoughts are with you and I sincerely hope that things get better. I have a 13 year old daughter, and I can't imagine what I'd do in your situation. Hugs!! OrneryCynichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464353781458940627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1781057298838391911.post-3853568140603652792012-10-10T20:00:52.776+01:002012-10-10T20:00:52.776+01:00VENT, woman, VENT!
Yes, your son totally did the ...VENT, woman, VENT!<br /><br />Yes, your son totally did the right thing, and you ought to be proud of him. He made a principled stand.<br /><br />The school said your son needs to toughen up? FUCK THEM. Sorry, but as a homeschooling mom, I think the whole "Kids need to deal with bullies" mentality is bullshit. Yes, we need to learn how to deal with asshats, but that's a high school: not a prison yard, for fuck's sake.<br /><br />You are such a smart woman for truly listening to your son, and seeking help for him. So many parents blow off a child's "I want to die" as a phase. You did the right thing.<br /><br />In the midst of all the other shit that's come your way - your hubby deploying and you getting so sick - I don't know how you've managed to deal with all of this.<br /><br />But you've done everything right. Your son did everything right. Your husband's command did everything right, thank goodness.<br /><br />I hope that principal got reprimanded but good. Fired would be even better. Facing problems is ONE thing. Facing violent criminals, bullies and sadists is another.<br /><br />What to do now until the 29th? I realize, like me, you are more spiritual than religious, but perhaps weekly visits with the chaplain could help. I'm trained in counseling, and most of the chaplains should be too. They can listen and offer help, without it having to be all about "God" and such.<br /><br />Also, Family Advocacy, I think, or the Youth Center, often has someone available too. I cannot remember their exact title, but there's a counselor who does 3-month rotations at different bases, and specializes in kids and families. <br /><br />You didn't fail, but your guilt is totally natural. It's part of a mourning process. I think we parents go through little mourning processes every time something like this happens, even when we know we did the right thing.<br /><br />I don't know who is telling you this shit - that you fucked up, that God took away your daughter because you don't deserve children, that you should leave, etc. But they are asshats.<br /><br />Let me say that when I decided to get a divorce, it was the hardest choice I ever made, because all I could think about was my son. It's been almost 2 years and the guilt is STILL there. Even though I know he's seeing, instead of his mom and dad together, each of us married to people we REALLY love now, it's still hard.<br /><br />We are harder on ourselves than anyone else could be, and having outside people give you those opinions? That's not what friends would say, *especially* that remark about your daughter!!!<br /><br />My advice? Don't listen to anyone else's advice.<br /><br />Instead, listen to yourself - your own intuition, your own instincts. YOU know what you must do to get through this. YOU know what your son needs. YOU are capable of giving yourself and your family a clean slate and, no, you don't need to go back to the U.S. to do that. <br /><br />YOU know what to do. Trust yourself.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com